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Gay Marriage and the Relationship Revolution

Robyn Trask — Wed, 15 May 2013 18:54:10 +0000

by Robyn Trask
Gay marriage is being hotly debated all around the country. In an effort to block marriage equality for gays and lesbians ultra conservatives make the argument that marriage is about procreation and serving the interests of society. The challenge is this argument does not hold up under even the slightest scrutiny and actually shines a light on what many conservatives are really being challenged by; that is the relationship revolution as an expansion of the sexual revolution.

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Why is Polyamory so Hard to Define?

Robyn Trask — Fri, 18 May 2012 15:42:17 +0000

Polyamory and the exact meaning of the word is often the subject of debate among self-identified polyamorous people. It has been much debated on websites, at conferences and discussion groups around the country. Even among leading polyamory activists the term is debated over and over again. What is the source of the controversy?
Webster’s Dictionary defines polyamory as “the state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a time.”
Wikapedia defines polyamory as “the practice, desire, ...

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The Shame Game: The Reality of Testing for STIs

Robyn Trask — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 00:28:37 +0000

Annual testing for STIs (sexually transmitted infection) is something I believe every sexually active person should do for their health, not just for people who are in some form of open relationship but anyone sexually active. It is part of being safe and sane with our own health. Unfortunately testing can often be source of shame and negativity for women and men seeking testing.
For several years I chose to go to the Boulder Women’s clinic, a seemingly progressive place ...

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Real Polyamorous Families

Robyn Trask — Thu, 11 Aug 2011 12:55:46 +0000

The concept of polyamory is often misunderstood by the general public and the media. Tell someone you are polyamorous and it conjures images for the average person of swing parties and clubs with people getting it on in dark corners or polygamous families with men controlling unhappy sister wives and lots of children. These images perpetuated by Hollywood are not polyamory, nor do they even represent the swing lifestyle or polygamy accurately.
When it come to families and polyamory, there ...

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Is Marriage The Union We Want?

Robyn Trask — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 18:11:04 +0000

Marriage is a hot topic these days, from gay activists fighting for equality to the conservative right insisting marriage is the very foundation of civilization and allowing gay marriage is a sign of the destruction of society. Then there is the slippery slope argument that if we allow same sex marriage it will lead to legalized polygamy and “oh my god” polyamory. Not to mention people will want to marry children and animals next. It is all very confusing as ...

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What is Polyamory?

Robyn Trask — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 16:18:20 +0000

It is not surprising there is so much confusion when the question “What is polyamory?” comes up. Words have both definitions and connotations that build over time heavily influenced by the culture around them. Polyamory was only recently added to the dictionary; first Webster’s and then the Oxford English Dictionary. Webster’s is “the state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a time” and Oxford English Dictionary states “the practice of engaging in multiple sexual relationships ...

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The Importance of Respect

Robyn Trask — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 23:09:40 +0000

Relationship advice is everywhere and you often hear in the poly community that the mantra is communicate – communicate – communicate… You will hear mention of making agreements, boundaries and of course the importance of love. Respect however is often mentioned in passing and yet respect is paramount in successful happy relationships, romantic or otherwise.
A few months ago, while channel surfing, I came across a biography interview with Reba McEntire. The interviewer was asking her about her long ...

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What’s Sex Got To Do With It?

Robyn Trask — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 17:24:22 +0000

Polyamory sends visions of orgies and free love to most people who first hear the term and definition. Even after careful explanation to the uninitiated, they still walk away thinking polyamory equals f***ing anything that moves. This belief that polyamory is about sex is what send people into a frenzy about morality, commitment and family values. The Montel show did a wonderful show on polyamory but when one of the poly guests compared polyamory love to loving children and the ...

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The Nobility of Lies and Perception of the Unicorn

Robyn Trask — Wed, 26 May 2010 18:11:58 +0000

The weekly drama series House recently aired an episode in which the patient was in an honest open relationship. True to Hollywood style all was not as it seemed. The show was in many ways a train wreck of what can go wrong when people are not fully honest. The episode featured three stories, the open relationship, the cheating doctor and House’s best friend’s dishonesty about his feelings with his girlfriend and former wife.
The open relationship is greeted in ...

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The Jealousy Excuse, Can We Please Get Real?

Robyn Trask — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 13:36:45 +0000

I hear it all the time and everywhere when the subject of Polyamory comes up, “what about jealousy?” or “do poly people get jealous” or the declaration, “I can’t deal with jealousy so I could never be in an open relationship”. At times these repeated questions and statements are heard so often that many poly people have almost rehearsed speeches to talk to people or reporters about poly and jealousy.
I was reading an article this morning, as is often ...

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