By John Ullman
S has been gone for over eight years now. She died suddenly, a heart attack, at 61. Her death shocked our poly community, many of us being close to her age. We had lost another of us some years before, but it was an accident, a car wreck. Then we were stunned. But when S died, we were rudely made aware of our own mortality.Continue Reading →
Polyamory is by no means for everyone, and monogamy certainly seems to work best for most people. But one of the more unfortunate features of monogamy is the way it tends to force relationships to be either The Right One, or nonexistent. The general goal of monogamy, after all, is to find that one person you can spend the rest of your life with, forsaking all others. ...Continue Reading →
By Maureen Marovitch
Reprinted from Loving More Issue #33, Winter 2005.
I’m going to say something that’s going to get me into water hotter than those at the Harbin Hot Springs.
Swingers and polyamorists have a lot in common.
I can hear the howls already. How ridiculous! Polyamory is all about relationships, sharing lives together, creating more love. Swinging is all about ‘recreational sex’, instant gratification, lust without love.
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It’s so comforting to have tidy ...
[NOTE: This article is an excerpt adapted from my Agreements Workbook Series (aka "KISSable Agreements) to appear later 2013. If you'd like to get word as soon as it becomes available, feel free to join my list by downloading one of the ...Continue Reading →
Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Kids scrawl out valentines to exchange at school. Stores are packed with cards, flowers and chocolates of every kind. Red and pink satin and lace lingerie litter the shopping malls. A day focused on couples, or at least coupling, makes it easy to forget that Love doesn’t have to be limited to only one person or that ...Continue Reading →
I’ve been reflecting recently on the variety of reactions we polyamorists get to our lifestyle. At choir practice the other night, one of the sopranos mentioned to me that she was taking a class on time management and that the instructor had said that after taking the class the student’s would have so much more time that their spouses and partners and polyamorous families would be delighted.
I ...Continue Reading →
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We’re Out of the “Poly” Closet–Now What?
By Kamala Devi
Speaking up about multiple loving relationships can be a huge risk. Why is coming out considered such a civil responsibility? You could lose your family, work, friends and potential lovers! And for what? What ...Continue Reading →
An Introduction to Social Polyamory – By Nancy & Darrell CaseyCopy Right 2005 -Reprinted from Loving More Magazine Issue #35 Summer 2005
“When it’s time to cum, you have to go,” was the humorous comment I’d often make as newcomers were introduced to “Rainbow”, which was an off premise Lifestyle Swing club. “Off premise” meant that dance activity was limited to making sensual and social connections; overt sexuality was not allowed. ...Continue Reading →
By Mystic Life
The reason most traditional relationships end is due to one (or more) of what I’ll refer to as “The Three D’s”: Drifting, Dysfunction and Desire.
Drifting occurs when two people evolve in different directions, and no longer feel a common bond that they once shared. Of course, a certain degree of variation in interests and values is typical, but when members of a relationship have significantly “drifted ...Continue Reading →