One day in the summer of 1971, my parents held hands, closed their eyes and jumped out of their conventional marriage into something strange and new. I was 9 years old at the time, and we were camping at Betsy Lake in the High Unitas Wilderness with another family of five. We were halfway into the camping trip when the six of us kids realized our parents had ...Continue Reading →
By Mystic Life
The reason most traditional relationships end is due to one (or more) of what I’ll refer to as “The Three D’s”: Drifting, Dysfunction and Desire.
Drifting occurs when two people evolve in different directions, and no longer feel a common bond that they once shared. Of course, a certain degree of variation in interests and values is typical, but when members of a relationship have significantly “drifted ...Continue Reading →
Several of the articles published here on PepTalk recently have treated the subject of relinquishing power over those we love. It is a common refrain in polyamorous circles: possessiveness, control, and power-grasping are all harmful to the full expression of one’s love.
For my own part, I couldn’t agree more. Yet at the same time, I find myself struggling at times with relationship definitions – and what expectations are associated with them. It’s quite true, as Robyn writes in this ...Continue Reading →
Back in college I went to a party with some friends who were visiting from out of town, and apparently one of the women at the party had noticed me. She called and asked if I’d like to go to a movie with her. I honestly had no recollection of who she was until we met, and it would turn out later that I actually liked her friend (a recurring theme for many years during my monogamous phase). The movie ...Continue Reading →
Marriage is a hot topic these days, from gay activists fighting for equality to the conservative right insisting marriage is the very foundation of civilization and allowing gay marriage is a sign of the destruction of society. Then there is the slippery slope argument that if we allow same sex marriage it will lead to legalized polygamy and “oh my god” polyamory. Not to mention people will ...Continue Reading →
Polyamory sends visions of orgies and free love to most people who first hear the term and definition. Even after careful explanation to the uninitiated, they still walk away thinking polyamory equals f***ing anything that moves. This belief that polyamory is about sex is what send people into a frenzy about morality, commitment and family values. The Montel show did a wonderful show on polyamory but when one of the poly ...Continue Reading →
VANCOUVER — January 28, 2010 — Members of Canada’s polyamory community have applied to become an intervener in the B.C. government’s challenge of section 293 of the Criminal Code of Canada — Canada’s anti-polygamy law. The application, filed in BC Supreme Court yesterday, is on behalf of the ...Continue Reading →
As we work to raise funds to keep Loving More going I thought about how Loving More as an organization has touched my life and I wanted to share it. I hope this inspires you to share your experiences. ~~ Robyn Trask
For many of us in the poly community the road to multi-partnered loving is a complicated obstacle course of emotions and evolving awareness. Loving More to me was a port in ...Continue Reading →
When I first heard the Tiger Woods hoopla, I ignored it as just another gossip fest about someone famous. A few days later, I was personally dismayed when I saw Tiger Woods leading the headlines in USA Today while a story about four police officers being killed in Washington State was not as important. The officers, it was believed, were targeted while sitting in a coffee shop. This was only a headline ...Continue Reading →